Esther Perel
Book Recommendations

  • Nonviolent Communication

    Nonviolent Communication

    Nonviolent Communication

    Marshall B. Rosenberg
    4.32 (26,986)

    Do you hunger for skills to improve the quality of your relationships, to deepen your sense of personal empowerment or to simply communicate more effectively? unfortunately, for centuries our culture has taught us to think and speak in ways that can actually perpetuate conflict, internal pain and even violence. nonviolent communication partners practical skills with a powerful consciousness and vocabulary to help you get what you want peacefully.in this internationally acclaimed text, marshall rosenberg offers insightful stories, anecdotes, practical exercises and role-plays that will dramatically change your approach to communication

    Esther Perel

    A classic...It's actually a book that doesnt age, but the reason that book spoke to me

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  • If This Is a Man • The Truce

    If This Is a Man • The Truce

    If This Is a Man • The Truce

    Primo Levi
    Auschwitz (Concentration camp)
    4.54 (17,294)

    'with the moral stamina and intellectual poise of a twentieth-century titan, this slightly built, dutiful, unassuming chemist set out systematically to remember the german hell on earth, steadfastly to think it through, and then to render it comprehensible in lucid, unpretentious prose. he was profoundly in touch with the minutest workings of the most endearing human events and with the most contemptible. what has survived in levi's writing isn't just his memory of the unbearable, but also, in the periodic table and the wrench, his delight in what made the

    Esther Perel

    If This Was a Man by Primo Levi is one of the most powerful books one ought to read. It's a unique testament. It's very simple.

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  • The Art of Loving

    The Art of Loving

    The Art of Loving

    Erich Fromm,Peter D. Kramer,Rainer Funk
    Psychology
    4.01 (64,612)

    The fiftieth anniversary edition of the groundbreaking international bestseller that has shown millions of readers how to achieve rich, productive lives by developing their hidden capacities for lovemost people are unable to love on the only level that truly matters: love that is compounded of maturity, self-knowledge, and courage. as with every art, love demands practice and concentration, as well as genuine insight and understanding.in his classic work, the art of loving, renowned psychoanalyst and social philosopher erich fromm explores love in all its aspects—not only romantic love, steeped in

    Esther Perel

    I recently reread The Art of Loving by Eric From.

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  • Sex at Dawn

    Sex at Dawn

    Sex at Dawn

    Cacilda Jetha,Christopher Ryan
    Social Science
    3.97 (27,915)

    Since darwin's day, we've been told that sexual monogamy comes naturally to our species. mainstream science--as well as religious and cultural institutions--has maintained that men and women evolved in families in which a man's possessions and protection were exchanged for a woman's fertility and fidelity. but this narrative is collapsing. fewer and fewer couples are getting married, and divorce rates keep climbing as adultery and flagging libido drag down even seemingly solid marriages.how can reality be reconciled with the accepted narrative? it can't be, according to renegade thinkers christopher ryan

    Esther Perel

    you can read Sex at Dawn, and you can talk to other people who actually practice consensual nonmonogamy or varieties thereof, and you can ask how it works for them. You get ideas.

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  • Family Healing

    Family Healing

    Family Healing

    Michael P. Nichols,Salvador Minuchin
    4.26 (107)

    Esther Perel

    It will change your whole way of understanding relationships,

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  • Crime and Punishment

    Crime and Punishment

    Crime and Punishment

    Fyodor Dostoyevsky
    Fiction
    4.24 (725,526)

    Raskolnikov, a destitute and desperate former student, wanders through the slums of st petersburg and commits a random murder without remorse or regret. he imagines himself to be a great man, a napoleon: acting for a higher purpose beyond conventional moral law. but as he embarks on a dangerous game of cat and mouse with a suspicious police investigator, raskolnikov is pursued by the growing voice of his conscience and finds the noose of his own guilt tightening around his neck. only sonya, a downtrodden sex worker, can offer the

    Esther Perel

    I'll tell you what I reread that I loved, because one of my kids was reading it in school, Crime and Punishment.

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  • Can Love Last?

    Can Love Last?

    Can Love Last?

    Margaret J. Black,Stephen A. Mitchell
    4.01 (389)

    Common wisdom has it that love is fragile, but leading psychoanalyst stephen a. mitchell argues that romance doesn't actually diminish in long-term relationships—it becomes increasingly dangerous. what we regard as the transience of love is really risk management. mitchell shows that love can endure, if only we become aware of our self-destructive efforts to protect ourselves from its risks. "those who read this book will love more wisely because of it."—andrew solomon, author of the noonday demon "[a] work on romance that is rich and multi-layered."—publishers weekly "cheerful, open, and

    Esther Perel

    Can Love Last?: The Fate of Romance Over Time by Stephen Mitchell. Mitchells book was part of the spine of my book

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  • Man's Search for Meaning

    Man's Search for Meaning

    Man's Search for Meaning

    Viktor E. Frankl
    Existential psychotherapy
    4.36 (522,974)

    Psychiatrist viktor frankl's memoir has riveted generations of readers with its descriptions of life in nazi death camps and its lessons for spiritual survival. based on his own experience and the stories of his patients, frankl argues that we cannot avoid suffering but we can choose how to cope with it, find meaning in it, and move forward with renewed purpose. at the heart of his theory, known as logotherapy, is a conviction that the primary human drive is not pleasure but the pursuit of what we find meaningful. man's

    Esther Perel

    The book I’ve probably gifted the most is Viktor Frankl’s Man’s Search for Meaning, since I’m 16.

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  • Liquid Life

    Liquid Life

    Liquid Life

    Zygmunt Bauman
    Social Science
    3.91 (1,385)

    'liquid life' is the kind of life commonly lived in our contemporary, liquid-modern society. liquid life cannot stay on course, as liquid-modern society cannot keep its shape for long. liquid life is a precarious life, lived under conditions of constant uncertainty. the most acute and stubborn worries that haunt this liquid life are the fears of being caught napping, of failing to catch up with fast moving events, of overlooking the 'use by' dates and being saddled with worthless possessions, of missing the moment calling for a change of tack

    Esther Perel

    Every one of the books that I’m thinking here are books that really shaped my thinking. ... I came one way and I finished the book and left another way, and Zygmunt Bauman’s book, Liquid Life, is another one like that.

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  • Fighting for Your Marriage

    Fighting for Your Marriage

    Fighting for Your Marriage

    Howard J. Markman,Scott M. Stanley,Susan L. Blumberg
    3.98 (480)

    This new and revised edition of fighting for your marriage is based on the widely acclaimed prep(r) (prevention and relationship enhancement program) approach. groundbreaking studies have found that couples can use the strategies of this approach to handle conflict more constructively, protect their happiness, and reduce the odds of breaking up. based on twenty years of university research, this popular book will show you how to: * talk more and fight less * deepen and protect your friendship * have a more intimate, sensual relationship * keep the fun alive

    Esther Perel

    ...that book will help many people personally as well as professionally.

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  • The Erotic Mind

    The Erotic Mind

    The Erotic Mind

    Jack Morin
    Self-Help
    4.21 (640)

    Challenging accepted theories about what makes for terrific sex, the erotic mind is a breakthrough exploration of the least understood dimensions of human sexuality—the psychology of desire, arousal, and fulfillment. nationally known sex therapist dr. jack morin offers a bold new perspective that celebrates the joys of eros without denying its risks.based on an in-depth analysis of over 1,000 provocative stories of peak sexual experiences, the erotic mind offers clear, accessible guidance on how anyone can utilize his or her own peak encounters and fantasies as powerful tools of self-discovery.the

    Esther Perel

    I reread The Erotic Mind... [in response to the question: what books have you re-read.]

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  • Breaking the Male Code

    Breaking the Male Code

    Breaking the Male Code

    Robert Garfield
    Family & Relationships
    3.58 (120)

    For much of the past century, men have operated under the rules of male code, a rigid set of rules guiding their behavior that equate masculinity with stoicism, silence, and strength. over the past few decades, as society has experienced seismic economic and societal shifts that have forced men to take on new roles within their families and relationships, this lack of emotional skills has wreaked havoc on men’s lives. in attempting to reconcile traditional views of masculinity with the modern call to step up as fathers, husbands, and sons,

    Esther Perel

    Theres a beautiful book by Rob Garfield called Questioning the Male Code, which I recommend for many of you.

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